Episode #117: Healing Trauma And Reparenting with Gabrielle Bernstein

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“In the beginning of the book I talk about how my publisher said, ‘we’re nervous for you, Gabby. You’re sharing one negative story after the next. You’re being too vulnerable and you’re not showing your true strength. And my response was, ‘my ability to be this vulnerable is my true strength.'”

– Gabrielle Bernstein

Meet Gabrielle Bernstein

For over sixteen years, Gabby Bernstein has been transforming lives—including her own. The #1 New York Times best-selling author has penned nine books, including The Universe Has Your Back, Super Attractor, and her latest, Happy Days. In her weekly podcast, Dear Gabby, she offers up real-time coaching, straight talk, and conversations about personal growth and spirituality with unique and inspiring guests. What started as hosting intimate conversations with twenty people in her New York City apartment, Gabby has grown into speaking to tens of thousands in sold-out venues throughout the world.

Gabby was featured on Oprah’s SuperSoul Sunday as a “next-generation thought leader.” The Oprah Winfrey Network chose Gabby to be part of the “SuperSoul 100,” a dynamic group of trailblazers whose vision and life’s work are bringing a higher level of consciousness to the world. The New York Times identified Gabby as “a new role model.” She co-hosted the Guinness World Records’ largest guided meditation with Deepak Chopra, and appears regularly as an expert on TODAY and Good Morning America, among other publications. She connects with her community through her books, her Miracle Membership, and her podcast Dear Gabby.

In This Episode

On this episode of the Get Loved Up podcast, Koya talks to bestselling author, podcast host, and motivational speaker Gabrielle Bernstein. Gabby talks about her own childhood trauma, her journey to healing, and some tips for people going through the same journey. With refreshing honesty and awareness of her own vulnerability, Gabby admits that she herself is a work in progress, and the only way forward is to continue working on yourself everyday.

“We all dissociate in different ways. When we’ve had extreme trauma, we can go as far as dissociating in such an extreme way where we literally tuck away the memory and it’s a brain function that is developed to protect us. And it protects us temporarily but we still can live with the feelings that are so impermissible.” – Gabrielle Bernstein

Get Loved Up with Gabrielle Bernstein

I hope you find an incredible amount of hope, inspiration and value, as I did, in what Gabrielle Bernstein shares with us in this episode. If so, please tag @gabbybernstein, and I, @koyawebb, on Instagram with a screenshot of the episode and your favorite takeaways. Hearing about what you’ve learned from us, and what your favorite moments were, inspires us to continue making a positive impact in this world. 

Until next time, love yourself, love others, and love the world. One day at a time, one breath at a time. 

  • 03:11 To be tender is to treat yourself like a newborn
  • 03:43 Addiction and Redemption: Gabby’s journey so far
  • 06:11 Coming to terms with childhood trauma and dissociation
  • 09:11 To show strength is to allow yourself to be vulnerable
  • 12:21 Psychopharmacological medication and deeper therapy work together
  • 14:00 A deeper dive into childhood trauma and dissociation
  • 20:22 What is Reparenting?
  • 22:54 Couples should work on themselves together

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