Podcast Episode 69 Leading with Validation with Dr. Ebony Butler

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“Normalize not having your life be a highlight reel all the time.”

Ebony Butler, PhD is a Licensed Psychologist and Food Relationship Strategist who has made it her mission to help women of color heal and thrive in the areas of trauma and diet recovery.Dr. Ebony specializes in guiding women to develop skills that increase their effectiveness in self care and interpersonal interactions, including communication and asking for/getting what they want and need. Aligning with her passion to break through barriers that make it difficult for Black people and other people of color to access quality mental health care, Dr. Ebony created the first ever self-exploration card deck for Black women and other women of color.

In this episode, Dr. Ebony and Koya talk about the current mental health crisis facing the world and Dr. Ebony’s personal journey to becoming a mental health professional. They share about the importance of self-care when as a person in high demand for their skills of holding space for others and what the future looks like as a community. 

  • We are in a mental health crisis 2:12
  • Journey to becoming a mental health professional 3:30
  • One of the most shocking things 6:19
  • Leading with validation 9:28
  • Normalize not being ok 11:18
  • Being high functioning 15:20
  • Learning internal validation 15:44
  • Taking care of our physical bodies 19:00  
  • Being vulnerable 20:30
  • Get through the moment 24:00
  • Avoidance v. Coping 27:34
  • The hardest time of your life 31:20
  • Being a therapist in a pandemic 33:00
  • Developing boundaries as a people pleaser 36:00
  • Creating Therapy Cards 39:20
  • How we will heal through thriving in community 45:40

Links mentioned in this episode:

  • https://www.amazon.com/Dr-Ebony-Presents-Food-Relationships/dp/1979878404
  • https://www.mytherapycards.com/?r_done=1
  • Order Koya’s book Let Your Fears Make You Fierce

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