Episode #99: Healing From Childhood Trauma with Koshin Paley Ellison

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“Until you learn to be still in your pain, you will never be free.”

– Koshin Paley Ellison

Meet Koshin Paley Ellison

Sensei Koshin Paley Ellison, MFA, LMSW, DMIN, is an author, Zen teacher, Jungian psychotherapist, and Certified Chaplaincy Educator. After many years as a chaplain and psychotherapist, Koshin co-founded the New York Zen Center for Contemplative Care, which offers contemplative approaches to care through education, personal caregiving, and Zen practice.

Today, New York Zen Center’s methodologies are internationally recognized—and have touched the lives of tens of thousands of individuals. Koshin is a world renowned thought leader in contemplative care. He is the author of Wholehearted: Slow Down, Help Out, Wake Up (Wisdom Publications, 2019) and the co-editor of Awake at the Bedside: Contemplative Teachings on Palliative and End of Life Care (Wisdom Publications, 2016). His work has been featured in the New York Times, PBS, CBS Sunday Morning, Tricycle among other publications.

In This Episode

In this episode of the Get Loved Up Podcast, Koya Webb talks to Koshin Paley Ellison, President & Co-Guiding Teacher for the New York Zen Center for Contemplative Care. Koshin talks about the continuous process of working on yourself emotionally and spiritually and how to help others do the same. Koshin also shared how his own painful experiences, as well as that of his own family have affected him emotionally and spiritually. Being the child of second generation of Jewish refugees that survived Eastern Europe, Koshin remembers how intergenerational trauma shaped his childhood and thus led him to the path of healing that he still treads on today.

“Even when things feel excruciating, or the moments of heartbreak and you just feel the wrench of life. To me that’s also what allows you to feel the amazing quality of life.” – Koshin Paley Ellison

Get Loved Up with Koshin

I hope you find an incredible amount of hope, inspiration and value, as I did, in what Koshin shares with us in this episode. If so, please tag @koshinpaleyellison, and I, @koyawebb, on Instagram with a screenshot of the episode and your favorite takeaways. Hearing about what you’ve learned from us, and what your favorite moments were, inspires us to continue making a positive impact in this world. 

Until next time, love yourself, love others, and love the world. One day at a time, one breath at a time. 

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  • 03:02 – From Poetry to Social Worker
  • 09:30 – Helping People through Zen Care
  • 12:43 – Surviving Childhood Trauma
  • 18: 30 – Finding Inspiration from Karate Kid and Star Wars
  • 21:43 – Be Still with Your Pain
  • 28:32 – Expect Discomfort while Undergoing Therapy
  • 37:51 – Coping with Trauma
  • 46:45 – The Importance of Spiritual Friends
  • 50:11 – Work on Yourself First
  • 57:09 – Get In Touch with Koshin

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