What’s the longest time you have spend not forgiving someone? How did it feel?
Forgiving and letting go is not an easy task, but that’s mainly so because we believe the other party doesn’t deserve to be forgiven and we are punishing them, and it’s completely the other way around. By not forgiving someone, we are holding on to negative feelings inside, which doesn’t let us move on.
You will have to really make an effort and shift your perspective on this one, but once you start practicing what I will show you in a second, you will feel so much better!
The trick is not taking things personally. If you were hit by a car, you would get mad at the person driving it, right?
But what if the car was being driven by no one? You couldn’t really blame anyone right?
Forgiving someone doesn’t mean you forget what they did to you or that you have to let them back into your life, but it helps you to let go of resentment and grow into a better version of yourself.
Forgiveness can lessen its grip on you and help you focus on other, more positive parts of your life. Forgiveness shows compassion for the one who hurt you. It doesn’t justify what they did or remove their personal responsibility for their action but forgiveness releases your emotional pain and allows you to have peace of mind and more forward.
Try filling in the blanks if you’re trying to forgive someone. I forgive _________ for ________ and I set myself free.
See yourself flying away from the situation like and dove in the air gracefully flying out to sea. If any residual emotion comes up let it drop into the ocean to be washed away by the waves. I use this technique anytime anything bothers me…I just send it out to sea.